How To Ruin A Coaching Conversation, Without Even Knowing It.
The art of coaching in some ways is simple.
You serve the person before you with everything you have, with your full attention, and with amazing questions.
The simplicity of it can be deceivingly dangerous.
The moment comes when the coach forgets they’re serving the person before them, and suddenly you begin to wonder who the coach in the conversation is.
If you have ever had a conversation with someone who can’t seem to stop talking about themselves, you will have a deep sense of what I’m speaking of here, the way they always flip everything back to their life, almost as if you aren’t there before them.
It’s okay if this is the type of conversation you are having with others, but as a coach it’s a world of service. And that means it’s about serving the best interest of the person before you.
In the coaching realm, they call it Role Reversal, where a client begins to interview and take lead of the coaching conversation.
But the opposite could be called Client Reversal, where the coach flips around and uses the conversation to address their own problems and challenges.
That’s an instant way to ruin a coaching conversation.
It happens time and time again where coaches unconsciously project their own agendas on others, having no clue they’re doing it, taking over the conversation using it as their own therapy session.
But the client knows. And it is an instant turn off.
So how do you know if you are sabotaging your own power as a coach?
The first sign I see when coaching coaches, is that they want others to be free of the trials and tribulations the coach feels they’ve pushed through, but the caveat here, is that the person that pushes their own ‘issues’ upon others has already clouded their ability to see clearly.
And more times than not when the coach, says I want people to feel at peace, or I want to wake people up, or I want them to know there’s another way to live their life, they are really saying, “I want to wake up; I want to live my life differently; I want to feel at peace.”
The second sign I see is very simple, the coach simply begins telling their client what they should want, what the client should want, as opposed to the what the client actually wants.
These distinctions are what makes for a shift in your ability to coach masterfully, knowing when it may be useful to dip in and out of these perspectives, to serve the person before you is mastery.
Not knowing…
Well, that’s something you will discover as you coach.
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